We all have that one friend who is getting back with her boyfriend for the 20th time after telling everyone she’s done with him and having her whole gang bashing him.

Most people say at least a little bit of trash about their ex after a breakup.

You have all gotten invites at least once. Hey, you want to do brunch and start the day drinking early and talking sh*t about your ex’s?

Before you know it, the exes are back together.

We have heard statements like no monkey can separate us.

A common phrase couples use when referring to their friends who trash-talk their partners during the breakup This leaves you feeling embarrassed whenever you hang out with the couple.

It is important to lean on friends when broken-hearted. This is very helpful in the healing process.

As a friend, you may feel the urge to share comforting words but hang back because you don’t want to say the wrong thing.

You may want to check in on your friend, but you don’t want to meddle.

Having a strong support system during a breakup is vital since it helps with the healing process.

However, the support system is always at a 9/10 chance of clowning. This often happens when the couple gets back together.

Getting involved in your friend’s breakup journey is inevitable, and your role as a friend is to be there for them so they feel better.

The problem comes when we don’t think through how our actions or words will impact our friends because this breakup is not about you.

“We love our friends and think we know them best, but I would refrain from offering advice if your friend isn’t looking for it,” sex and love educator Jayda Shuavarnnasri tells MBG.

“And if you’re not sure, just ask them! Some things you can ask: ‘Do you want me to be petty? Do you want me to hype you up? Do you need to vent to me right now?'”

Feeling compelled to immediately bash or trash talk a friend’s ex once it’s all over is normal, but it takes a high level of self-control to have no comment on this kind of situation.

As much as we feel the urge to save our friends from their bad relationships, we need to let them learn on their own.